Growing up in the middle of the country you grow up with a “can do” attitude on most things. The land seems vast and productive. The roads run straight and true. The crops grow tall and beautiful. Nothing seems impossible. It can get you in trouble though because you extend yourself too far – you think everything is possible – that there will be enough hours in the day to do everything that needs doing. A pastor I know said he was so busy that he didn’t even have time to pray. What? In reality, how many of us get so busy that we don’t take time for prayer and meditation. Taking time to center and connect with our Creator is so critical to having the energy we need each day to do things that have lasting value and things that help us live fruitful meaningful lives.
So many of us say yes to every request. It helps us to feel needed and wanted by others. It gives us a sense of value when we agree to helping and working for the “good” of others – the community, a friend, or whomever asks for our assistance. ‘Yes,’ is not the right answer all the time. You have to take into account your needs as an individual. You need to consider your whole self. What are your circumstances? What is your context? How many demands do you have? How much time are you giving away? St. Paul wrote, “Conduct yourselves wisely toward outsiders, making the most of your time.” In other words, be clear, be smart, be open, but be cautious about the use of your time. If you use VALUE as your guide it will help to make your ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ more meaningful and realistic. Chose how you will use your ‘Yes’ as well as your ‘No.’