Self-talk is something that we do all the time. What is your’s like? You may not even be aware of it. I tend to be highly critical of myself. I’m not sure why – growing up with a stern Germanic atmosphere or just my own odd idiosyncracies. I’m not sure what it is. It sometimes causes me to cover up flaws or hide them from others while beating myself up psychologically. It gets me in trouble and confuses others. I think it is important though. I think we need to learn young to be better at positive self-talk in order to avoid the pitfalls of later life. A negative inner conversation is a hard habit to break even when you are marginally successful. Blogging is even a form of self talk when you think about it.
Changing requires not only courage but single-mindedness. It has to become a focus of attention. We sometimes blithely go through our days, relationships, work, and even play not paying attention to how we regulate ourselves with this inner voice. I intend today to pay more attention to what I am saying to myself, how I trick myself, and how I either chastise myself or affirm who I am. It’s easy at times to see and affirm the good in others more than we do ourselves. So here are some things that I am going to work on today:
1. Reduce internal negative comments, 2. Give myself and others more affirmations, 3. Hit the mental pause button when I begin to form a negative outcome, 4. Challenge my fears and false ideas, 5. Focus on what brings me joy and embrace it, 6. Take time to give thanks more, 7. Ask others for positive accountability.
I hope this didn’t sound like psychological mumbo jumbo but it comes out of a desire to share with you something that needs work in my own life. As Jesus said, “ Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32