Spiritual Coaching Vol 2 #209 Admitting… http://www.dennymeyer.me
As Advent progresses we take the fifth step of the Advent journey: “We admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”
If the psychic basement seemed scary, then imagine sharing the contents with someone. We all keep secrets – some are better at it than others. If we want to really let go of the past – if we want to progress in life – then find a trusted friend or counselor who can help you deal with accountability. Sometimes this person is called a sponsor, sometimes a spiritual coach, sometimes a pastor, sometimes an advisor, and sometimes an accountability partner. Be aware that people who want to do this for you may not always be trustworthy. What is their agenda? That’s why I like to refer people to a spiritual coach, professional counselor or pastor because they are bound by professional confidentiality. You may find someone who you trust beyond a shadow of doubt but be careful in making this choice.
What you are doing with this step is “off-loading” the things you think are “wrongs” as well as those things that really do break your life down – both the wrongs done to you and the wrongs you have perpetrated. Either way they have become a part of the garbage in the basement and the clutter of your life space. They often crowd out the real you and are often the reason you choose addictions to escape thinking about them. If you say, “I’m not addicted to anything.” Then go back to step one. We are all addicted to a rebellion against God and want to be in charge of our life – we are driven by selfishness. It is the “other” trusted person that brings light to our thoughts and memories.
I remember when my brother and I had the job of going through the contents of my mother’s house. She was retiring to an apartment. It was difficult and challenging. We were both glad we had each other to make decisions on what to keep and what to dispose of or give away. In the same way the “other” to whom we reveal the nature of the wrongs becomes very important to our progress. In 1 John 1:8-9 it says, “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” Releasing the weight of all our guilt allows us to move ahead.
Mahatma Gandhi once wrote, “Confession of errors is like a broom which sweeps away the dirt and leaves the surface brighter and clearer. I feel stronger for confession.” It is that other who helps you find the broom and get the work done.