Spiritual Coaching Vol 2 #213 Amends… www.dennymeyer.me
We definitely move to a different level now. When it comes to hurting someone by our behavior, habits, addictions, and selfishness – confession may be good for the soul but making amends will try every fiber of our being. Sincerity, honesty, and truth in what we do is vital. Sometimes we apologize or seek forgiveness with no intention of changing. it is a cloak to protect our habit. That is not what this is about. If we have gone through the first steps we will be ready for this one. It is important to really go through each step in a systematic way and work through them. So the journey for today is:
We will make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Up until this time we were getting ready. Now we follow the guidance of scripture that can be found in Matthew 18: “If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend.” We are not talking to other people or asking other people to intervene on our behalf – we are doing it. We risk being hurt and rejected but it for our healing we do this and the potential of bringing healing to our relationships. We are seeking the person out and talking to them – EXCEPT – “when to do so would injure them or others.” Don’t let that be an excuse to not talk with people. This is not an episode of “My Name Is Earl.” It is not a sitcom – it is real life. We confront the addition to sin and selfishness and we consider who we have hurt over time. Whenever possible we reach out to them.
It’s too bad that we think that these steps are only intended for alcoholics – the addiction to sin that can breaks apart relationships and destroy our life regularly assails us. You may not go to the confession booth to offload your sin any more but your Creator is more than willing to hear you, forgive you, and lead you toward making amends when it is necessary and possible. Be of good courage. The practice of forgiveness and seeking to be forgiven is a special gift of healing we too often overlook.