The Fix…. Spiritual Coaching (3/95) Among the things that help you to deal with stressful situations in your life are two valuable tools. 1. Don’t try to know all the answers, and 2. Don’t try to fix others. All of these ideas add up to a less stressful life for you. These two are big.
First, you can’t have all the answers in life. If we try to be perfect we will fail every time and berate ourselves. So don’t try. Holding vast amounts of information for every possibility becomes a laborious and impossible job. It is better to be a broker of information – that is to say – know how to find information or point others toward the information that they can research themselves. You can’t do it all, so don’t try.
Second, stop trying to fix others. In the growing entitlement society we live in people want things done for them. Don’t try to fix everyone’s problems. Whether it’s kids, parents, friends, or co-workers, it is not your job to solve all their problems. If you can advise, listen, and be of assistance – do it. I’m not talking about being selfish or uninterested but reduce your stress by not trying to FIX others. It is better to take care of yourself so there is more of you to help when it’s really important and needed.
As the great philosopher, Lily Tomlin, once said, “Reality is the leading cause of stress among those in touch with it.” And as the Scriptures remind us, “Cast all your anxiety on (God) because God cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7