If you want to change the world, start with yourself. Think of people in your life that you have an uncomfortable relationship with. What would be two or three things you would change in that relationship or in that person. Sit back, relax, and think about those things. You consider that this person is irritating because they try to control every conversation, yet, as you reflect you begin to realize that it was you that wanted to be in charge of the conversation and you resented this person because they tried to take that from you. You were not the center of attention. A light bulb goes on.
When you change yourself you change the world around you. Often it is the way we respond to the world that is the issue we contend with. Be completely honest with yourself. One of the major obstacles for belief in a Creator, for instance, is that we do not want to let go of control – we want to be God. This is how we dealt with our parents as well – we rebelled against their control. They created us and we wanted to reestablish control over our life as we grew up. In order to uncover your truly authentic self you must discover that inner rebellion separates you from what is peaceful and authentically you.
Many of our relationships are linked to our parents and how we felt about them or feel about them. We may not even be aware of these feelings. They can be clouded by the protective barriers we have built in order to create an identity. So ask yourself a few questions:
+ How do I feel about my parents?
+ How do I think they feel about me?
+ Do I feel love towards them or do I need to heal that relationship in some way?
+ What perspectives about life have I adopted as a result of my parents?
+ Are my adopted beliefs accurate or do I need to reassess them in light of what I have learned?
As you explore these take the time to read the following passage from scripture:
“Become wise, dear child, and make me happy; then nothing the world throws my way will upset me.” (Proverbs 27:11)
Tomorrow I want to explore some spiritual questions that will help you with your spiritual journey and accepting your true self identity.