This week has been a week of dealing with sadness. Three significant losses have been difficult for people close to me and obviously for those they affected more directly. Once again I was brought to that point of grief. Earlier in my life I thought that just getting over something took being busy with normal life things and time would heal. The old saying, “Time heals all wounds” – that’s bologna. Time sometimes makes it more tolerable but other times worse. We need to take time to grieve. It is through the grieving process that God helps us to move on, heal, and see new opportunities.
So once again I go to the Word and experience to understand grief in a spiritual way. Here are just a few ideas:
• Turn to a spiritual friend or family member for support and encouragement – ask for prayer.
• Draw comfort from your faith.
• Make a pilgrimage to a sacred place in your life.
• Pause during the day – be mindful of how you feel.
• Face your feelings – be aware of your body and mind’s reaction.
• Express your feelings in a tangible, artistic, or creative way.
• Take care of your physical health.
• Serve someone – the very act of service puts love in motion.
• Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel and don’t tell yourself how you feel either – just let yourself feel.
• Be aware of grief “triggers” that will catch you off guard or trip you up unexpectedly.
Take a look at these scriptures:
Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Isaiah 43:2 “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”
Psalm 18:28 “You, Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light.”
Psalm 46:1-2 “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea.”
Revelation 21:4 “ ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
Psalm 119:50 “My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life.”
Romans 8:18 “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”
2 Corinthians 7:10 “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.”