Giving your best has been the theme for this weeks posts. I want to take that idea to the relationships we have. Intimate relationship and friendships are at their best when there is a mutuality of giving the best. Whether it’s a close intimate friend, a spouse, children, or parents giving of yourself in a servant role brings its own reward. There is a satisfaction that God gives to you that even the relationship may not always give. Now I don’t want people to take this wrong and say that you should be a servant when people in those relationships mistreat or abuse you. Mutuality is the key.
I’ve presided at many marriages where one is committed and serving the other and there is no mutuality. That is a formula for failure or at least a very painful learning experience. If couples would seek to excel in serving one another there will be so much more satisfaction. Giving your best becomes not a competition but and joyful experience of intimacy. Likewise parents need to take the time to teach children the meaning of mutuality, service, love, and giving our best. That means we must also teach discipline. We can’t be our children’s BFF’s – we are parents. As a result in adulthood there will hopefully be a mutuality where we really fulfill the fourth commandment of honoring parents. Friendships bloom in the same way when we give our best and excel in helping one another to be the very best we can be.
It’s a Christ-like quality to serve by giving our best. Give your best in worship this weekend. Find a place where mutuality is talked about and lived out in community.